What is a Co-dependency Coach?

Hi, I’m Roslyn Saunders. I’m a codependency recovery coach. A question I’m asked a lot is what is a codependency coach?

Before answering the question, it’s important to first understand what codependency is. Codependency is relationship addiction in any area of life.

It occurs because we haven’t formed an intimate and honest relationship with our self. So how do you know if you’re codependent? Here’s a quick codependency checklist for you:

  • Do you say yes to things when you mean no?
  • Do you feel it’s your job to fix, manage, and hold your relationship and family together?
  • In close relationships, do you change to please the other person and lose yourself? Are you so busy giving and doing for others that you feel there’s nothing left for you?
  • Do you worry about not being liked or not having others’ approval?
  • Do you stay too long in situations that aren’t serving you?

If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, there’s a good chance you’re codependent. Another question I’m asked is how do you cure codependency?

As with any addiction, the first step in recovery is getting honest about your life being unmanageable – and then being willing to make changes. So back to our original question, what is a codependency coach? A codependency coach is someone who walks alongside you on your recovery journey. They provide support and guidance to help you to make sustainable, healthy changes that heal your codependency. If you’re looking for a codependency coach, you really need to seek out a person who has lived experience, has healed their own codependency, and is walking their talk. As a codependency coach, here are some of the things I do with my clients in recovery.

Usually people come to me when they’re dealing with an acute relationship crisis. They’ve exhausted all other avenues and are paralysed by fear at the thought of making any changes. Keep in mind it really doesn’t matter if the relationship is a partner, child, parent, sibling, work colleague, or friendship, it’s all codependency.

First, I help them settle down the acute situation to be more manageable. I will have them do homework and start implementing the recovery tools. I also remind them, there are no silver bullets, and codependency recovery takes commitment, raw courage, and daily work. Then as we go along, we build the internal emotional muscle to deal with other things as they come up. Because we are creating a new healthy way of living, we have to let go of the old way one step at a time.

When we do this, it brings up situations that are scary and take courage to face. This is where the codependency recovery journey cannot be done alone and where a codependency coach is life saving. If any of this resonates with you, please contact me for a free 20 minute discovery call to have a chat. You can reach me on my website, roslynsaunders.com.au, on facebook at the Codependency Coach, or you can email me on roslyn@roslynsaunders.com.au.