Hi everyone, happy New Year! Welcome to another New Year. I hope you’ve all had a safe and enjoyable time over Christmas. It’s often not easy for some people, and I’ve been working through Christmas as well. You know, some people have lost a loved one, and others have different circumstances around Christmas. I know for years, I hated Christmas, and all I wanted to do was to get it over. So, I hope it’s been manageable for you.
Today, I wanted to talk about something I discussed with a client this morning. Her life was unmanageable, things had gotten all out of order, and she was very emotionally disturbed. It reminded me of the first step in the 12-step program, which is acknowledging, “My life is unmanageable.”
The reason I wanted to talk about that is you don’t need to label things like “I’m this” or “I’m that.” If your life is unmanageable in an area, that’s where you start your recovery and cleanup. It might be in your finances, your intimate relationships, relationships with your children, family members, or even at work with colleagues. The first thing is to ask yourself, “Is this situation unmanageable?” If it is, then the next step is to figure out what steps can I take to start getting it back into order.
As I mentioned, the reason we turn to any addictions is that we can’t manage our emotions. So, what can you do to help address this situation? Often, we feel isolated and overwhelmed, leading us to other addictive behaviors. It might be in your relationships, so you turn to eating chocolate or, for me, sugar. Identify the steps you can take to make that area of your life more emotionally manageable.
I also offer a free 15-minute consult if you’d like to chat. I could probably give you one or two tips based on where you’re at, helping you take the first couple of steps to make that area of your life more emotionally manageable.
The 12-step program is something I really like. I attended my first 12-step meeting 34 years ago, and I believe it’s a wonderful spiritually engineered mandate for living. Surrendering with “My life is unmanageable” is the first step. Then, you can figure out what steps you could take.
Please give me a call or reach out through my website rosnsaunders.com.au. When two minds can come together on something, it helps, especially when we’re emotionally unmanageable. It’s crucial to reach out to the right people, not the wrong ones who may not understand this work.
Remember, if things are out of order, acknowledge, “My life is unmanageable,” and then ask yourself, “What’s one baby step I could take to start addressing it?” Okay, thanks.
