Hi everyone, today’s tip is that no one is going to change unless they really, really want to. Now, why I brought up this topic, and I think we need to relearn it over and over again, is that no amount of manipulating, controlling, coercing, or playing games is going to get someone else to change to be how we want them to be. Boy, oh boy, do I know plenty about over the years of playing all those different roles, and nothing changed unless that person comes to the realization deep down inside of themselves. There’s no amount of game-playing or buying them things or giving them trips overseas or no amount of turning yourself into a pretzel is going to make them change.
Now, what I would like to recommend is that we get support and someone to help us, which is what I do with my clients. Someone to help us with our fears around the certain people that we think should be different, and to help our fears around that and create different ways of getting back into our own paddock, I like to call it, and doing the work on ourselves to manage the fears we have and insecurities we have around how someone else is. Sometimes it may mean that you step away from a relationship, a business, a job, it may mean that you need to take yourself out of that environment. It’s very, very difficult to do it without support, and that’s exactly what I help people do. Therefore, you make the decision when it’s right for you.
So, no amount of game-playing is going to get someone to do what you want them to do. In actual fact, we’re feeding it and making it worse by doing it. Also, not only not helping them or they’re not going to change, but we are making ourselves sicker by our codependency and wanting to control something. Reach out to me if this is a situation for you where you’ve kept banging your head on a brick wall trying to get someone to change, and let’s have a chat. I do a free 20-minute Discovery session, and of course, go to my website for a lot of free resources. Thank you, and that’s the tip for today. Thank you.
