As your trusted Recovery Coach and Addiction Specialist, I often see a quiet struggle that can derail even the most committed journeys towards healing: separation anxiety. It’s not just for kids anymore, and it plays a huge role in how we navigate recovery from addiction, codependency, and difficult relationships.
You might be starting to set healthier boundaries, step away from an unhealthy pattern, or simply finding your own footing in a new phase of life. While these steps are vital for your well-being, they can also trigger a profound sense of loss and fear of abandonment.
For those of us moving through recovery, this anxiety can stem from deep roots. If you’re navigating codependency, the idea of separating from a partner, friend, or even a past version of yourself can feel overwhelming – as if your identity was tied to theirs. For those breaking free from addiction, the substance or behavior became a familiar, albeit destructive, companion. Letting go can leave an intense void, triggering fears of being adrift without that false comfort.
It’s crucial to understand that these feelings are valid. You’re transforming, and change, even positive change, can bring discomfort.
Navigating the Tides of Separation Anxiety
So, what can you do when these feelings surface? Here are a few ways to start building your resilience:
- Acknowledge and Validate: The first step is to simply acknowledge that these feelings are real. Don’t judge yourself for experiencing anxiety; it’s a natural part of growth.
- Build Your Inner Resources: Focus on developing self-soothing techniques. This could be mindfulness, deep breathing, connecting with nature, or engaging in a hobby that brings you peace.
- Strengthen Healthy Connections: Cultivate supportive relationships with people who genuinely uplift you and respect your boundaries. Surround yourself with those who encourage your growth.
- Practice Healthy Independence: Gradually step into situations that build your confidence in coping independently. Start small, celebrate your efforts, and trust in your ability to navigate life on your own terms.
As someone who has walked this path, I understand how daunting these feelings can be. But with the right tools and support, you can transform this anxiety into a powerful catalyst for deeper recovery and a more fulfilling life.
If you’re finding these feelings overwhelming, remember you don’t have to navigate them alone. My work as a Codependency & Recovery Coach is centered on guiding you through these challenges, offering personalised support and strategies tailored to your unique journey.
You can learn more about how I can support you by visiting my website or replying to this email.
Warmly,
Roslyn Saunders Codependency & Recovery Coach | Addiction Specialist roslynsaunders.com.au
