Good morning, everyone! I hope everybody’s doing well out there in my Facebook community. Thank you again for being in this community, and I really, really appreciate the feedback. It gives me ideas on what’s helping people out there within this arena of codependency.
So today, what I thought I’d do is, from my book “Recover from Codependency,” talk about addiction and the definition. Tommy Rosen from America, one of the people I hold up in high esteem as a demonstration of sobriety in all areas of life, explains addiction.
Gabor Mate explains this as well—one of the world’s leading authorities on trauma and addiction.
Addiction is any behavior, thought system, or not. We become addicted to our thoughts, and we continue to do and can’t stop despite the fact that it brings negative consequences into our life.
So, people get hung up on the word. They don’t like the word “addiction.” They don’t like to think of themselves being addicted to something. They steer away from it. They justify and um, so what I’d like you to do is if you don’t like the word “addiction,” look at the things you’re doing that are causing negative consequences in your life, thought-related or not. Whether you’re addicted to anxiety, whether you’re addicted to helping people, whether you’re people-pleasing, actually, whether you’re addicted to those things, have a look at them and see if they are causing negative consequences in your life. If it’s causing you despair, you don’t feel good. If it’s causing you to not take care of yourself because of these situations, then have a look at it. Where you are addicted to things, people, places, and things that where it’s not serving you and causing negative consequences in your life. Don’t worry about the word “addiction.” Look at what it’s causing in your life and whether after repeated commitments to yourself, you can’t seem to stop doing it.
And it can happen in just the smallest of things. So that’s what I’d like to share today. Where is your life out of balance? Where, yeah, where are things not right? And if you can actually make adjustments to those situations or if you keep doing them and justifying or rationalising as to why you need to do it and it’s deep down you don’t really want to do it. So, I hope that helps today, and have a good week.
